Which Camp do I belong to?

I think I am in-between, like most people are.  Here's what I believe:

Firstly of all, whenever humanly possible, we adjust our lives around the baby's needs.  E.g. we go out a lot less because the baby needs to nap.  Whatever adjustments that need to be made, we know that they are only temporal.  However, we are also mindful of the fact that a family first begins when two people come together in marriage.  Children are a result of the love between the couple.  They are the 'fruits' of the marriage.  Hence, they are additions to the already existing family.  In other words, the couple (or the parents) is the core of the family.  The marriage is what holds the family together.  When the marriage breaks down, the family breaks down with it. 

The condition of the marriage directly affects the well-being of the children, which are the 'subsidiaries' of the marriage.  Therefore, ensuring the well-being of the marriage is fundamental to ensuring the well-being of the children.  If you have to spending time and energy dealing with a rocky marriage, you won't have the time and energy, nor the right frame of mind, to take good care of your children.

To me, I am not just the mother of my child.  I am a wife, as well as a daughter, a friend, a sister, etc.  If my world revolves around my baby (which already it is, but you know the kind of extreme I am talking about, I trust), I will have little time and energy to perform my other roles.  My relationship with my husband will probably deteriorate, and I probably won't be much of a daughter or friend or sister.....This applies to the father of the baby as well, by the way. 

And for the child, the best thing you can do for him is to give him the stability of your marriage.  Nothing gives a child more security than to know that his parents are in love with each other and are  always there (as one entity) for him.

Methods like scheduled feeding suits my personality as I prefer order, predictability, hate changes and uncertainty. I like to know what will happen at what time, and be able to make plans.  With a child, your life will never be predictable.  So that's bad for me.  I will be a total emotional basket case.  Hence, I need to establish orderliness and predictability even in my parenting approach to minimise the 'chaos'. 

The bottomline is that we will adjust to the baby as much as humanly possible and within reasons and as long as it is not at the expense of our marriage.