When I look to my husband to fulfill my needs and dreams, I will get frustrated because he is after all, a human being with limited strength and resources. He cannot possibly be omnipresent, omniscience and omnipotent to meet all my expectations. Granted he is the sole breadwinner of the family, it is ultimately the Lord who provides for our family. Even for me, a SAHM who does not have an income of my own, I should look to Him to fulfill my own needs. He could provide through my husband - as He does daily by providing my husband with the job and the money. He could also provide for me through other means. He is not limited in resources and channels. If I place my hope and expectation on God, then I would take it off my husband, which means I have a better hope - a confident expectation of good things to come - because I know the Lord can surely provide. Then I will not be so frustrated with my husband and he won't feel the burden of expectations from me.

This really changed my perspective and made me a happier person. I feel that by leaning on God, I am also better able to minister to my family instead of feeling that they are my source of frustration.

I hope this sharing will minister to other fellow SAHMs who are struggling with the same issues that I struggled with.  In God's eye, you are not a lesser being just because you stay at home and don't earn an income or contribute to the economy.  In fact, God's Word says this :

The Lord gave the word;

Great was the company of those who proclaimed it:*

"Kings of armies flee, they flee,

And she who remains at home

divides the spoil.

Though you lie down among the sheepfolds

You will be like the wings of a dove covered with silver,

And her feathers with yellow gold."

Psalms 68:11-13 NKJV (emphasis is mine)